HJ-ED-DHJHerald Journal Columns

August 20, 2007

What a worrywart

I’m worried that senior year will go by so quickly that I won’t have a chance to enjoy it.

I’m worried that someone close to me will be taken away without a moment’s notice.

I’m worried that I won’t succeed in life.

I’m worried that I have said the wrong thing too many times.

I’m worried that nobody will understand what I am trying to get at in this column.

I’m worried that I worry too much.

Obviously I am a very worried person, and this list is the short one.

It wasn’t brought to my attention until recently that I am much too worried about things that are inevitably going to happen, things that could happen, and things that are happening whether I like it or not.

Worrying, fretting, and overall just over-thinking things just so happens to be in a woman’s nature, and apparently I am no different than any other female on this planet.

Whether it’s our relationships, our children, our futures, our jobs, or our car payments, we worry about them.

It really is not our fault, we’re built with the worrying genes.

This is why, in relationships, women are the ones who analyze every detail of the relationship to the fullest extent, when, in reality, this is highly unnecessary and just ends up making the men folk upset.

I think the reason that this upsets them is because they don’t worry nearly as much as we do.

Sure there is the occasional guy who steps out of the stereotype and worries too much. He is often matched with a woman who steps out of her stereotype and doesn’t worry much at all. Thus, they off set each other and are perfectly compatible.

So why don’t men worry as much as women, if at all?

“I don’t find worrying to be all that productive,” fellow columnist and co-worker Ivan Raconteur said when I asked him if he every worries.

It’s not that men don’t care, they just don’t think it is worth their time to fret about things that they cannot control.

Thus, women are the worrywarts to offset the men who don’t worry.

Essentially it makes sense, but then I wonder why I even worry in the first place.

There has to be a greater explanation as to why we worry.

In attempts to find the answer, I sought out a greater source of knowledge than myself: the internet.

I found that a recent study proved that around 85 percent of the things that we worry about don’t actually happen.

So it’s that 15 percent that keeps us awake at night.

I will admit that worrying, over-thinking, and over-analyzing do essentially no good; in fact, they probably do more to harm you than help you.

Worrying stresses your mind and body, causing you to lose sleep and hair.

Earl Nightingale compares worrying to “a dense fog that can cloud our vision, knock our perspective out of kilter, and slow us down.”

This still doesn’t necessarily tell me why we worry. The only explanation that I come up with is that it’s just what we do . . . it’s in our nature.

We can try all we want to stop worrying about things in our lives that we can’t control because deep down we know that it’s not worth it, but it is most likely possible that we will never fully be able to get rid of worry.

Try as I might, I will always end up being a worrywart.